Real men don’t need help. Boys, in societies all around the world, are taught to become strong independent men. Males are typically raised to be tough. Growing up boys consider their peers weak for expressing emotions like crying, sadness, or withdraw. This method in raising our country’s young men has developed one of the nation’s fastest growing undiagnosed diseases, male depression. Because of this installed fear of appearing weak, males fail to recognize and much less admit that they might be facing depression. Historically, this idea is seen in many countries throughout time.
Men are raised to be leaders, soldiers, fathers, providers, and protectors all over the world. When the United States was formed, the men of the country held all power. It was not until the 20th century that women and men begin to receive some equal rights. Even though women and men can hold the same responsibilities and positions in today’s society, the idea of being a strong responsible independent man is still a very important factor in a man’s ego. When only men shared the rights of the country it was much easier for men to appear strong and responsible because women were not performing the same task as them.
Now that men must share the power and rights, it is more difficult for them to find areas where they can independently thrive as a man. As a result there has been a significant increase in the male depression rate. In an article about adult men depression, Dr. Goulston explains that men do not view reaching out for help as an option during a time of depression. In this article, Dr. Goulston also states, “This is also due to their belief that power is measured by how many people you need (the rugged individual image) and weakness correlates to how many people you need. Men strongly fear giving someone the impression that they could be considered weak so in return, fail to seek any help when they develop a problem or face depression. In an article on PsychCentral, Ben Martin, a doctor in psychology, declares that, “historically boys didn’t talk about their emotions or thoughts, so they failed to develop words to describe their feelings. The inability to name emotions made it difficult for boys to discuss their thoughts with friends or family. ” This is a consistent theme across the nation that must begin to seek change.
This concept has evolved from some of the earliest history and has yet to catch up with today’s times. In the world’s society today, men face many stressful jobs. But also, due to the economy and unemployment rate, lately the depression rate in men has significantly spiked. My face stress and depression in many areas but many men are faced with these issues in their careers. In the last century our country has been faced with fighting seven wars. During this time our country has employed hundreds of thousands of our countries men to one of the most stressful and pressing job in the world.
The mentality and lifestyle taken on by these men sets this up to face depression in the long term. The rate of depression faced by men and women of the armed forces is considerably higher than those found in other groups. Because they are taught to be so mentally and physically strong, the men of the armed forces will face many stages of depression and are very unlikely to seek help for any of them. My uncle is a veteran of the Vietnam War, one of the most gruesomely scenic wars our country has faced. His best friend and best man of his weeding died right by his side in combat.
He trampled over seas dead bodies many times. He fought in the Vietnam War and has never received psychiatric help. As a sixty-six year old man he now faces post dramatic stress disorder, depression, and alcoholism, none of which he will admit to. This directly correlates to how men do not seek the psychological help they need. One of the most pressing issues of today’s society, unemployment, brings an immense amount of depression faced by unemployed fathers and husbands. To fulfill the role as a father or husband, our culture is taught that men must provide support to a family.
This support usually comes from making money through their job or career. If men lose this stability in life, this whole process is thrown off balance for them. An article from Royal College of Psychiatrics states that, “Recent research has shown that up to 1 in 7 men who become unemployed will develop a depressive illness in the next 6 months. ” In most of these cases me almost always turn to self-medication instead of seeking outward help. When a man is lacking in his father or husband role, he feels unwanted and if his family is still functioning well, he may feel as if he is unneeded.
Although men and women both face unemployment and depression from it, men are very less likely to ask got any help. The high undiagnosed depression rate in our country has led to many other pressing problems. According to recent studies, 80% of all suicides in the US are men. This fact pertains very closely to the fact that 60-80% of our nations depressed men never seek help. The depression in men is also hard for others to recognize because men do not have the same, more textbook style, as women do.
Depressed women tend to blame themselves, while depressed men tend to blame others. Women feel sad and worthless, while men get angry and irritable. Depressed women avoid conflict at all cost where depressed men create it. Where women find peace in food, friends, family and love to self-medicate, the men use alcohol, TV, sports, becoming workaholics, and sex as self-medication. In an article over depression in men, Susan Frenikel, author of this article, claims that, “Undiagnosed men often turn to substance abuse to cope.
They abuse alcohol and drugs at nearly three times the rate of women. Often, people are smoking pot and drinking to self-medicate for anxiety and depression. ” Because the signs and symptoms of male depression differ so much, it is very important that males are communicated with well. Because men have this fear and view that needing help makes people lose respect and confidence in them, our country is faced with a large spread of undiagnosed male depression. Many factors play a part in the depression men face in current society.
Some of these factors include, mentality developed from historical times, high stressed jobs, and unemployment. This issue also develops many other problems in the US like suicide. Because men show different signs of depression than women do, male depression is much harder to be noticed by friends or family. How we raise our boys plays a very big part of how they will handle stress and depression. Seeing the results and raising statistics in male depression, our culture may need to reflect on the way we raise and develop our children.